My Boyfriend Left Me - Do I Want Him Back

Wow, what a punch in the stomach. You were just dumped. It can be a shock, even if all the signs were there. Now comes the hard part, what to do next? If you've just said 'my boyfriend left me, what should I do now?" the answer might not be what you expected!

As humans it is our nature, unfortunately, to want what we can't have. If your boyfriend just left you then your natural inclination is to want to get him back. Many times women in this situation will fight tooth and nail to get their guy back.

This is the point where you have to stop, take a deep breath and think. Don't just react, think. What do you want? Is the relationship worth saving? Being completely, brutally honest with yourself is one of the hardest things you'll ever have to do, but it's also one of the most important.

The honest answer to that question will determine what you do next. If you can honestly say that yes, overall, it was a good, respectful, loving relationship and I want him back than you should try to get him back.

You shouldn't smother him though. Believe it or not one of the best ways to get him back is to give him space. Don't scare him off by being a clingy, pathetic, needy woman. Remind him of the vibrant, fun loving and sexy women he fell in love with.

Go out with friends. Do the activities that bring you pleasure. This can be tough to do if you're dealing with a broken heart but it's very important. You don't want to wallow in your grief. Not only will this make you unattractive to him but it will make it harder to bounce back and start living your life again if the two of you don't get back together.

If you decide that the relationship had run it's course and/or wasn't very respectful or fulfilling in the first place then really all you need to do is pack up his stuff and tell one of his friends, you don't even have to talk directly to your ex, to tell him to come and pick it up. Done. Time to move on to something better!

Just remember that if the words "my boyfriend left me" have recently come out of your mouth you do have options. Take the time you need to decide what's best for you. Once you've made that decision the path will be much easier to see.